How To Maintain A Long Distance Friendship
Everyone says long distance relationships are tough, but I’m pretty sure long distance friendships (LDFs) are just as bad if not worse! Cause unlike LDRs where (you’d think) there’s only one…. I’ve got about 15 LDFs on the go right now! Which kinda sucks when we used to have multiple catch-ups a week and go to all events together. It sucks even more when you know that they’re all still doing that and making new memories, and you’re somewhere else.
Studying away from your friends doesn’t mean you guys have to drift apart though. If it’s a good friendship that’s worth keeping, you can hold onto it thanks to a ripper combination of social media, thoughtful gestures and long-overdue catch ups when they do happen.
- Make a regular time to chat to your friends when you’re both free. Every Monday night, for example, so that you don’t just let it go by the by.
- Try to actually talk as often as possible. As awesome as social media is, a lot of communication value is lost through typed words. Being able to hear someone’s voice or see their face is really important for maintaining a solid connections. Skype and Facetime are your friends.
- Send or post photos! Seeing what your friends are actually doing at the moment and showing them your life is probably the easiest way to keep up with each other.
- Be honest with your friends about what’s going on for you at the moment. If you’re busy, let them know, don’t leave them hanging! If you’re stressed or excited, call them for support, it’s what friends are for.
- Show genuine interest in what’s happening in your friend’s life, too, even if things are a bit hectic at your end.
- Offer appreciation. It’s the little things that count, and finding little ways to show your friends you love them is what will really keep a friendship alive. Anything from tagging them in hilarious memes that made you think of them, to sending them alcohol or flowers on their birthday. Everyone wants to feel appreciated.
- Focus on the friends you really care about. Don’t waste time keeping up with someone you actually don’t really like because you feel obligated to. Life’s too short and all that.
- Spend all your time trying to stay close to your old friends and forget to form new ones! It’s about balance, and meeting new friends is an opportunity worth taking too.
- Expect your friends to do nothing but see you when you’re back in town. Make time, but give everyone space too!
- Make your friends feel guilty for doing stuff without you. Being happy with your choice to move and accepting all that goes with that will make it better for everyone.
- Cling onto friendships that are just too much work to maintain. Decide where your line is and stick to that.
- Talk non-stop about how great all your new friends are and how much better your new life is. It’s like getting a new boyfriend; people want to hear about it, but they don’t want to ONLY hear about that.
- Do the opposite, and talk non-stop about how lonely you are and how much it sucks. Again, it’s good to open up, but after a while it can be frustrating for the person on the receiving end.
- Try to pressure your friends into following in your footsteps. If it happens, awesome! If not, no biggie, you’ll still be friends.
So if you’re about to make a Big Move and the thing holding you back is your awesome friends…. Keep Calm and LDF it up!